Mentorship,

*Note: This post will discuss some of Ms. Mulder’s topics from both post #2 and #3.  From post #2: agreement, disagreement, opinions.  From post #3: share a story, support a point.*

I finally met with my mentor!!!  The days leading up to my first meeting were simultaneously exciting and nerve-wracking.  Of course I was excited to get a real “start” on my in-depth, but meeting a new person always makes me anxious.  Especially if that person is a complete stranger who I’ll need to spend over an hour with.  On Saturday morning, with my eyes still half-shut, my mom and I drove down to New West to meet with my mentor, Sandi, for the first time.  If I wasn’t so tired from the Talent Show the night before, my stress levels would have been unbearable.  We arrived to Sandi’s place quite early, so we drove around a bit before I actually had the will-power to approach the door.  (Hey, did you know that New West has a very nice 7-Eleven?  They have a full hot dog toppings bar and everything!)

About five minutes before our scheduled start time, my legs were shaking as I walked up to the door to knock.  However, when the door opened to a pleasant smile, I quickly relaxed.  Sandi made me feel super comfortable as soon as she said hello.  When we went into her house, she led me to the space where she does her clients’ nails.  Prior to our meeting, Sandi pulled out some supplies that she thought may be helpful for our lesson.  We started off the meeting with me explaining the In-Depth project in more detail.  I talked about what the project includes, why I was interested in nail art, and my hopes for the end product.  During this discussion, I chose to include some personal stories about my In-Depth project last year.  I thought that by including these experiences I would not only make the discussion more interesting (as De Bono talks about), but it would also help to clarify what In-Depth is all about.  After explaining the project, I think Sandi had a much better idea of what I want to achieve by the end of five months.  I can already tell that we both have the same vision of the future as she very clearly kept this in mind throughout the rest of the lesson.  For example, she continuously brought up ideas for my In-Depth night station during our discussions.

The first big topics we went through on Saturday were nail supplies and clean up.  Sandi started by showing me her nail station set up.  She keeps all of her must-haves (polish remover, cotton swabs, and basic tools like clippers) on the table, while everything else is stored in cupboards or on shelves nearby.  When I asked her which of the tools I’ll need to get right away, she suggested I stock up on the following:

  • Good base & top coats
  • Clippers
  • Nail file
  • Something to push back cuticles (She suggested either getting a metal tool or orange wood sticks.  Based on prior research, I have decided to go ahead with using the orange wood sticks as they are safer on the nail.)
  • Makeup brushes & sponges
  • 99% alcohol
  • Dotter
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Image via Nail It Mag

We also discussed the other supplies that I will experiment with during our sessions together such as glitter, paint, and stamps.

During this time, we also talked about sanitation as it is very important, but often not talked about.  To support this point, I mentioned to Sandi that often when I go to salons, I get concerned about their cleaning practices.  After sharing this feeling, she told me that when she has new clients, she always explains her sanitary procedures to them.  She said that this makes them feel much more comfortable and suggested that I also explain my cleaning procedures during In-Depth night when I do my demonstrations.  We went through a couple different cleaning products that she uses, but for the purposes of my project, we agreed that 99% alcohol may be the most practical choice.

After going through some more cleaning procedures, we moved onto discussions about nail art.  We talked about more nail art supplies and what everything is used for.  When I saw how steady Sandi’s hands were with all the materials, I asked her what technique she uses to keep her hands so stable.  She showed me that she anchors her hand with her pinky to keep it from shaking.  I am definitely going to try this technique the next time I practice on myself.

We also took a look online at a few different nail designs and how different types of polish are more practical for different designs.  One video we watched together showed an artist cutting acrylic paint off of his clients nails to get straight lines.  Sandi explained to me that certain patterns, like stripes, may be more achievable using certain polishes.  When I asked her to clarify if it was possible to get straight lines any other ways, she told me that hand drawing, using tape, and using stripers are all options, but the results may not be the best. Instead, she suggested that I use nail stamps for stripes.  This wasn’t the most thrilling answer for me as my goal is to learn nail art by hand, not only using a stamp.  However, I did not want to disagree with Sandi because her point was valid.  I honestly think she’s right that stamps are probably my best bet in getting straight lines, it’s just that I want to learn to go above that.  Like De Bono suggested, I didn’t want to disagree for the sake of it.  Instead, I listened to Sandi and understood where she was coming from in this suggestion.  Lucky for me, Sandi later vocalized that just because stamps will be the easiest choice, we don’t need to forget about everything else.  She let me know that in the coming weeks we can work on creating stripes using various methods.

To end off our meeting, Sandi let me play around with stamps and dotters on her nails.  She showed me how to create simple designs using the dotters and the proper technique to use for stamps.  Before I left, we scheduled our next meeting and Sandi gave me homework to start supply shopping as well as look up some nail designs that I would like to try out in the coming weeks.

As you can tell, a lot happened during our first meeting and I am very happy with how everything went.  To end off my blog post this week, I have included some photos of the nail art I tried out prior to my first meeting with my mentor.  These pictures will serve as a “baseline” of sorts that I can look back on at the end of In-Depth this year.

Photo

 

Apologies vs Actions

Somehow we are back in Social Studies, and honestly, it felt like we just finished Socials 9 yesterday.  I am particularly excited to begin Socials this year because we are taking the time to learn all about Canada.  Yes, learning about history in Europe can be interesting and is definitely important, but it doesn’t really hit close to home.  Whereas, learning about Canada, the place I actually live, feels very personally relevant.

While quite a heavy topic, residential schools and reconciliation are definitely an interesting way to start off this year’s Social Studies journey.  The topics line up very well with our interest in learning about the “dark side” of Canada.

Background

It is estimated that about 150,000 aboriginal, Inuit and Métis children were removed from their communities and forced to attend residential schools.

Image via CBC News

Myself, OliviaRachael, and Weijin are covering the broad question “What are the key components of reconciliation?”.  Be sure to check out their blogs to read about other topics regarding the process.

Personally, I have decided to look into the following specific question in regards to the reconciliation process:

  • What is the right balance between apologies and actions?

I was really interested in this question as I think it is one of the biggest components in the reconciliation process.  After willingness and trust is made between groups, the actual process of reconciliation begins.  The question is, what exactly needs to happen during this time?  Sure, an apology feels good, but does it really fix anything?  And yeah, it might be nice to be given some extra cash as a way to say “sorry”, but how does that help the emotional trauma?  Through my research, I want to get more insight into which apologies and actions need to take place for reconciliation to be successful.

Research

Apologies

All of the above CBC articles address the point of apologies.  Specifically, Stephen Harper’s official 2008 apology to former students of residential schools.

“The treatment of children in Indian residential schools is a sad chapter in our history.

“Today, we recognize that this policy of assimilation was wrong, has caused great harm, and has no place in our country,”

Image via The Globe And Mail

Harper’s apology came after many people demanded a sincere, heartfelt apology by a prime minister.  Although Harper and many other officials’ apologies included depth on the issue, it’s hard not to wonder “did they just do this because they had to?”  Controversy and questions like this have come up in regards to apologies with the church.  While some churches, such as the Anglican Church of Canada, provided heartfelt apologies, others did not satisfy the Aboriginal community.  For example, CBC reported that “Pope Benedict XVI expressed his “sorrow” to a delegation from Canada’s Assembly of First Nations for the abuse and “deplorable” treatment that aboriginal students suffered at Roman Catholic Church-run residential schools.”  At the time of this statement, Phil Fontaine of the Assembly of First Nations did not accept the words as an apology.  They were more of way to just “close the book”.

This all makes me wonder “how much does an apology really mean?”.  If the Aboriginal people have been pushing for an apology for years and they finally receive one years later, how do we know if the words spoken are truly sincere?  In the Herald News’ “A Selection Of Quotes From Aboriginal Leaders, Residential School Survivors”, Helen Cromarty, a survivor, says

“There are many missing things that I can never ever get back, but having the government apologize and acknowledge the damage that has been done, I feel a little reprieve. I can live with it and I think that’s another step forward. Why not keep going?  The path is there now, follow it.”

I really like this quote because it brings up a good point.  When the government and church apologize for what they have done, there is a slight chance that they may make those who they have hurt feel a little bit better.  Although mostly, it just makes themselves feel better.  I think apologizing is more of a way to take the weight off your own shoulders, thinking that the word “sorry” is going to fix everything.  However, this is untrue.  You need to prove your apology by demonstrating the proper actions to make your apology real.

Actions

But which actions are the right actions?  I found the first two CBC articles quite interesting as they address past attempts of “reconciliation”.  A couple years back, the way that the government and church chose to show apologies was through compensation packages.  These packages provided residential school survivors money in order to repay their bad experiences.  Former students were to receive $10,000 for their first year at school and an additional $3,000 for all the further years they attended.  According to CBC News, “as of Sept. 30, 2013, $1.6 billion had been paid, representing 105,548 cases.”  This compensation package also included a promise for the Truth and Reconciliation Commission which was officially established in 2008.

Here’s the thing; money is great.  I’m not going to deny that.  However, for the government to use money as their first big attempt to reconcile is ridiculous.  Money is not a real apology for all that Indigenous people have endured.  Money is not going to simply fix the trauma residential school students face.  Money is not going to bring back the childhood of Aboriginal kids who were taken away.  Why could the government and church not have gotten together to initially discuss the mental well-being of former students?  Why go straight to money?  Is it because it’s the easy choice?  What was the point of wasting time distributing cash as a first action when really, it does not help fix the problem?

In the residential school situation, we really need to look to the Aboriginal people to understand what they see as reasonable actions to prove apologies.  It is their values that we need to accommodate.  The TRC Mandate goals include:

(a) Acknowledge Residential School experiences, impacts and consequences;

(b) Provide a holistic, culturally appropriate and safe setting for former students, their families and communities as they come forward to the Commission;

(c) Witness, support, promote and facilitate truth and reconciliation events at both the national and community levels;

(d) Promote awareness and public education of Canadians about the IRS system and its impacts;

(e) Identify sources and create as complete an historical record as possible of the IRS system and legacy. The record shall be preserved and made accessible to the public for future study and use;

Now, these goals are all good and swell, but how much do they mean if not everyone is partaking?  Just one person refusing to demonstrate these respectful practices will stunt the whole reconciliation process.  What the mandate is asking for is reasonable for Canadians to participate in, so why don’t we?  It is important that Canadians work together as a collective to truly make a big impact and fix all the damage done.

Conclusion

Through my findings, I believe that apologies and actions are both necessary in the process of reconciliation between groups.  While we can never really know the level of sincerity of one’s apology, from the perspective of a survivor, it is still nice to hear.  For those who have harmed, it allows them to remove a weight off their shoulders and to forgive themselves.  However, we can forgive, but we should never forget.  An apology is not the end of the issue.  We cannot let ourselves ignore the rest of a situation after a simple “sorry” is said.  We need to prove our apologies by acting on what the TRC mandate asks for.

The one big question I am still asking myself is “How do we secure mutual trust and respect between groups?”  This question is important because in order for reconciliation to initially occur, a trust has to be created between those involved.  If trust isn’t present, then nothing can begin.

So why is any of this important?  I think we need to understand the difference between apologies and actions, and we need to do each of these things appropriately and actively.  When I say “we”, I truly mean “we”.  Progress is a collective process.  As Canadians, we all need to take part in following and respecting the TRC mandate in order to reach true reconciliation.

Challenges,

**Note: Ms. Mulder’s questions for post #2 will be answered in post #3.  In this post, I will discuss my progress so far (including why these questions are unable to be answered).

The process of finding and securing a mentor has proved itself to be far more challenging for In-Depth 2017.  Last year, my search for a mentor was fairly simple; I took a one minute walk from the TALONS room down to the hairdressing room, asked the question, and ta-da!  I had a mentor.  This year, not so much.

As mentioned my intro post, I knew that finding a mentor would be a little more difficult as I am specifically looking to learn about nail art.  Not all salons offer nail art or have someone who specializes in the field, so waltzing into a salon and getting a mentor would not be probable.  Therefore, I had to turn to other sources.

Some designs by Tyna’s Spa, the first person I contacted

The first person who I contacted runs a spa at her home in Port Coquitlam.  She uses Facebook as her main platform to advertise and regularly posts pictures of the work she does.  The nail art photos she posts on her page are a perfect match to what I want to achieve by the end of in-depth.  When I got in contact with her, she told me that while she wished she could help, she was unable to commit.  Between all of her clients, running the spa alone, and taking care of her son, it would be difficult to be a full-time mentor.  I fully understood why she could not mentor me and thanked her for her time.

The next person who I spoke to was through my mom and her hairdresser.  My mom got in contact with her hairdresser as she remembered that there was an esthetician who worked in the salon.  Initially, the hairdresser told us that unfortunately, the esthetician no longer worked there and that we’d have to keep looking.  A few days later though, she called my mom back and gave her a phone number for a nail artist she knew.  I called this person and we spoke very briefly before she had to go to her mom’s for dinner.  In our quick conversation, she expressed interest in the project and told me to call her back at a later time.  I was beyond excited to have a mentor!  However, when I called her back and explained the project in more detail, she realized that she wouldn’t be the right fit for the project.  She told me that while she can do some nail art, it isn’t her expertise.  Because her clients are mainly of an older generation, she never had the need to learn any nail art.  When needed, she’ll look up a tutorial on YouTube to figure out a design, but she isn’t necessarily an expert in the area.  She also wasn’t sure if she could commit at this point due to the fact that she recently got in a car accident and her mobility and skills are limited.  Once again, I understood, but was back at the beginning.

At this point, our second in-depth post was coming up and I had to talk to Ms. Mulder about the fact that I wouldn’t be able to complete the “Beautiful Mind” questions.  While we were speaking, she suggested that I ask around the class to see if anybody had any connections.  Specifically, she told me to talk to Madison as she has an interest in makeup and is doing special effects makeup for her in-depth project this year.  Not to mention, her nails are ALWAYS on point.  I approached her in class and she told me that her step-mom’s best friend runs her own nail business and is someone who strongly believes in nail techniques being done by hand.  During the Macbeth cultural

Me, excited about having a mentor

event that night, Madison told me that she texted her step-mom who said that she thought her friend would love to be my mentor and sent us the contact information.  Just recently, I contacted her with all of the project details, just praying that she would say yes.

She did!!

Of course, we still need to figure everything out such as when she can get the criminal record check back to me and when we’ll be meeting, but at this point, I’m just super happy to have a mentor secured.

In terms of other progress made, the English research essay was quite helpful in giving me a basis on nail care.  The point of my essay was to determine what the most important, yet often underestimated, nail care techniques are.  After doing my research, I realized that I do not follow most of these steps in my every day nail care routine and this is something I need to work on.  The good thing about doing the research essay is that now, I don’t need to spend as much time on the nail care topic with my mentor, so we can get into the nail art a little faster.

To end of my post this week, I want to share with you some of the key things I learned about nail care.  The following are just some of the tips that we should all be following:

  • Treat your starting surface (nails, fingers, and hands) delicately
    • Wear gloves to keep hands from getting wet or dirty when washing dishes, cleaning, gardening, etc.
    • Short, strong nails are better than long, breaking nails
    • Moisturize!!!
  • Properly care for your cuticles
    • Never cut your cuticles
      • If you do, they’ll be more prone to breakage and infection
    • Try to leave cuticles completely natural, but if needed, push back with an orange wood stick
  • Analyze your products
    • Check polish ingredients
      • Big things to watch out for: Dibutyl Phthalate, Formaldehyde, Toluene
    • Use non-acetone remover

 

Introductions,

Remember when Winter Break used to be full of relaxation?  Where you could actually go outside and play in the snow without the constant voice in the back of your head screaming “in-depth, In-DePtH, IN-DEPTH”?  Yeah, I don’t either.

Unlike eminent, where I had a plan of what I wanted to do for grade ten as I was taking down my grade nine learning centre, I have been completely stumped on in-depth.  Tons of ideas were flying in and out of my mind, but I just couldn’t settle on one.  After in-depth being so successful last year, and this year being the last time I get to do this project, there’s definitely a lot of pressure!

2013 Photo of my Nails from the PNE

Over Winter Break, I finally decided to settle on something.  For my 2017 in-depth project, I’ve decided to pursue nail art!  The main reason I chose to do nail art is because it’s been something I have wanted to do for a very long time.  I have always loved painting my nails, but could never do anything more.  I remember that for the longest time, one of my favourite things about going to the PNE was going into the Marketplace to visit the Nail Pen booth.  I never actually bought the nail pens, but I did pretend to be deeply interested in purchasing them so that the artists would paint more designs on my nails.

Another reason I wanted to do nail art is because I can’t actually imagine myself trying it outside of in-depth.  Things like journalism, song writing, and poetry are all things that interest me and would be cool for in-depth.  However, I can actually picture myself doing these things on my own in the future.  For example, I plan on taking journalism and pursuing it as a serious career.  Nail art on the other hand, not so much.  By doing something like nail art for in-depth, I’m forcing myself into an interest that I wouldn’t focus on otherwise.

The final reason I chose to take on nail art is because it somewhat links to my in-depth project last year.  Last year for in-depth, I created a hair tutorial website.  Click here to check it out (and please follow me, I’m so close to 20k).  The two definitely relate as they are both in the category of beauty projects, as well as they are skills very applicable to my life.  Also while doing in-depth last year,  I learned teaching skills when creating the step-by-step hair tutorials.  These teaching skills will be valuable when I present my nail art on in-depth night, which I will get to a little later in this post.

Now that I have explained why I want to do nail art, I should probably explain what exactly I’m doing with it.  The main end goal for in-depth this year is to learn 10 different nail designs that I can confidently execute on both myself and others.  My hope is to learn a variety of designs from simple, to professional, to fun.

The following are design ideas I would love to learn (via cutepolish):

    

In addition to the designs themselves, I want to learn nail-related skills such as basic nail care techniques, how to use nail art tools, and how to get a clean polish and design.   I also want to continue working on my people and communication skills with my mentor this year.

Speaking of mentors, I don’t actually have one yet.  What’s difficult about finding a mentor this year is that I very specifically want to work on nail art.  Not all salons offer nail art, let alone have people who who specialize in it.  I have started my search and have sent out my first request just recently, but am waiting to hear back.  Hopefully, it will all work out.

To finish off this post, I briefly want to discuss what I have in mind for my learning centre as it ties in with how I plan to demonstrate my final skills.  On In-Depth Night this year, I am going to set up a station to do peoples’ nails.  This learning centre will show off the skills I have learned throughout the project.  Like I mentioned earlier, this sort of ties in with my in-depth project last year as I hope to explain the design as I paint them out.  The teaching and tutorial skills learned  previously will be super helpful during my demonstrations.

That pretty much wraps up my first in-depth post of 2017!  Even though I’ve done in-depth once before, I’m basically starting something new all over again, so it’s just as intimidating.  But that also makes it just as exciting!

IT’S OVER

Eminent 2016 has officially concluded along with my eminent journey in general.  It’s so weird to think that I’ll never have to do an eminent project again, nor do I have to stress about who to do next year.  I’ve been thinking about eminent so much lately that not thinking about it makes me feel like I’m missing a limb or something – Eminent was a part of me!

Night of the Notables on Wednesday was extravagant.  My speech, learning center, and collaboration videos all went well!  The following video includes all of these aspects, so be sure to check it out.  (If you did film a collab with me, check the description of the video to find where you appear!)

For the last time, be sure to like the video, subscribe, and leave a comment down below telling me your favourite memory from Night of the Notables.  Thank you so much for watching.  Bye friends!

SHOUTOUTS

Tomorrow!!!  *Breathe in, and breathe out*

As eminent is wrapping up, I thought now would be a great time to post my bibliography/ biBLOGraphy/ bibVLOGraphy.  Here are the links to the resources I discussed in my video.  If you’re interested in Tyler, be sure to check them out!

Tyler’s Links:
Videos: http://youtube.com/tyleroakley
Bonus Videos: http://youtube.com/extratyler
Tumblr: http://tyleroakley.tumblr.com
Facebook: http://facebook.com/thetyleroakley
Twitter: http://twitter.com/tyleroakley
Instagram: http://instagram.com/tyleroakley
Snervous: https://itunes.apple.com/ca/movie/snervous-tyler-oakley/id1049214792
Binge: https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/binge/9781501117695-item.html?ikwid=binge&ikwsec=Home&ikwidx=0

LGBTQ+ Resources:
Terms related to sexuality: http://mental-health-advice.tumblr.com/sexuality  
Articles related to the LGBTQ+ community: http://everydayfeminism.com/tag/lgbtqia/
The Trevor Project’s terms, definitions, and FAQ: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/pages/support-center 

AN INTERVIEW WITH RICKY FICARELLI

Interview complete!  So happy to have done this interview with Ricky Ficarelli.  All of his answers have been really helpful in my eminent project, specifically in terms of getting into a YouTuber’s mindset for my speech.  Check out the video below and be sure to leave a comment if you have anything to add on to our responses.

Two days until Night of the Notables!  Good luck everyone!

The Unofficial DoL

This blog post is brought to you by your SpongeBob meme of the day.  Stay tuned for more spongealicious memes.

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Although I already completed my Document of Learning in the form of a library post as well as stated I would only be doing my eminent posts in the form of video, I felt it would be beneficial to post my speech here for feedback.  Feel free to comment any kind of feedback so I can finish up my speech and get practicing!

The Idea: I, Tyler, just hit 10 million subscribers on YouTube and am making a video to thank my supporters.  In this video I want to emphasize the importance of this community (#TeamInternet) in getting me to where I am today.  I also want to prove to them that they can go places from where they are right now and create positive change in the world.

The Speech:

Hey everyone!  My name is Tyler Oakley and today we hit a pretty big milestone.  If you follow me on Twitter (which you should by the way – @tyleroakley), you’re probably already aware but… we just hit TEN MILLION SUBSCRIBERS.  That’s right, this community right here on YouTube has grown to be a family of ten million people and I want you to know that I am incredibly thankful for every single one of you.

WE have done this together because WE have been through it all.  We created.  Created a book, a documentary, a podcast, a tour.  We raised.  Raised awareness and money for the causes we care about such as the Trevor Project.  We reached.  Reached goals both in your life and my life, in numbers like the 10 million today, but also in our personal achievements.  Whether you have been watching since my very first video, or this is the first video of mine you have seen, WE, Team Internet, are what has made this possible.

If you went back in time and told seven year old poor, fat, closeted Tyler that in twenty years he would be standing in front of a camera talking to 10 million people across the world, he would just laugh.  And yet, here I am today.  That’s why I want you to know that whatever struggles you are going through, you can overcome. Dysfunctional family, eating disorder, not being accepted for being LGBT, or something else, WE can all grow and go places from there.  

This all starts by making a difference.  Whether it be as small as taking care of yourself and bringing a smile to someone’s face or as big as advocating for a cause you care about.  No matter who you are and what you do, all of us can positively affect this world.

Anyways, those were my words of wisdom for today.  I want to thank you, my people, again for helping me hit 10 million subscribers here on YouTube.  If you liked this video you can give it a thumbs up and make sure to subscribe if you aren’t already. Also, leave a comment down below telling me how you plan to grow, make a change, and be your own eminent person.  Okay, that’s all!  Bye friends!!

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If it’s easier for you, here is the Google Doc link as well: https://docs.google.com/document/d/13tExqRBrVbgbq-rHXqYVAQ1F_tgVQMTbIZJcUTA-d4M/edit?usp=sharing

VLOGGING IS HARD

The title says it all.  Vlogging is a lot more difficult than I thought it would be, especially when walking around in public.  My trip to the VPL and MacLeod’s consisted of almost falling over on the Skytrain, nearly walking into people in Vancouver, getting weird stares for talking to myself, and even receiving a couple dirty looks.  So please, give my video a thumbs up for all I had to endure.

HEY EVERYONE!

I T ‘S . H E R E .

Eminent 2016 has finally arrived and I couldn’t be more simultaneously stressed and excited.  This year, I have decided to do all of my eminent blog posts in the format of a video, just as my eminent person, Tyler Oakley, would.  I think* the video speaks for itself, so without further ado, here is “Wannabe Tyler’s” introductory VLOG post.

*Actually, I KNOW the video will speak for itself.  I mean, it’s seventeen minutes long.  (Sorry…)

PRO-TIP: Check the description of the video to find exact times for specific topics.